Is it appropriate to wear black shoes, black dress pants, and a black long sleeve button shirt to a funeral?

March 12, 2010 by admin · 12 Comments
Filed under: Etiquette 
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Re asked:

I’m wondering cause I don’t have a business suit to wear and the traditional long sleeve white shirt would look disrespectful, right?

Would it be better to buy a black sweater if possible?

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12 Responses to “Is it appropriate to wear black shoes, black dress pants, and a black long sleeve button shirt to a funeral?”
  1. Megan H says:

    Who cares what you wear, as long as you show up…society sucks. Megan H

  2. mrylsmmrs says:

    it would be fine mrylsmmrs

  3. bow says:

    i have been to 2 funerals and my family wore darker colors but more like blues and reds

    its suppose to be a celebration of their life not to be mad cause they are gone

    you should be sad because you have lost a loved-one but think of your memories of how they used to be and think what they would want you to look like at the funeral bow

  4. P F says:

    The outfit in your question would be better than a black sweater. Blacks usually clash anyway, but it looks OK if it’s a dress shirt and slacks. A black sweater with black dress pants looks very cheesy, a little 1987. As for the white shirt, it’s not disrespectful; it would just make you look like a waiter. P F

  5. deb says:

    I went to my BF father’s funeral several weeks ago, people had on everything you could think of. I sat beside the mailman, and he was in his uniform. Just showing up will mean more to the family than what you are wearing/ deb

  6. the700 says:

    white is not disrespectful at all. The suit is dark, and usually go with a darker tie. All black is not required, but not uncommon either. If you have a light suit only, then go with a dark shirt and tie. the700

  7. Fox in the Snow says:

    I wouldn’t wear all black. The point is about respect, not all-in-black mourning style of the 1900’s. If you wear a nice pair of black pants and shoes with a nice crisp white shirt and tie, you will be looked at as respecting the deceased person, no one will honestly think twice about this outfit. Wearing a white shirt and a conservative tie is not seen as disrespectful–even if you don’t have a coat to go with it.

    I honestly don’t like black button down shirts except for on women. You will run the risk of looking like Johnny Cash, and may even draw attention to yourself.

    Good luck! I’m sure you’ll be fine. Fox in the Snow

  8. Ladida says:

    Ive saw a woman wearing a mini skirt and knee high blak boots to a funeral. I think your outfit of choice is very reasonable as long as ur not flashin cleavage or too much leg you wont be considered as being disrespectful. Just you showing up means alot. Ladida

  9. juniejuly says:

    That will be fine…. juniejuly

  10. lorianna says:

    I don’t see why not lorianna

  11. Mark says:

    The important thing is to attend the funeral and/or viewing. If you want to wear black shoes, trousers, and a black long sleeved shirt or sweater, go ahead. No need to go out and make a special purchase. Mark

  12. In Yo Face!!! says:

    I think the black dress pants and black shoes are appropriate. Add the sweater (black or dark gray) with a button down shirt (white’s ok). Add a necktie and you are set. In Yo Face!!!

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